Side sleeper pillow height guide - I measured so you don't have to
Anonymous
5 months ago
I bought 8 different pillows and measured their actual loft under head weight (not the marketing numbers). Here are my findings for side sleepers:\n\n- Shoulder width matters MORE than weight\n- If your shoulders are under 16", you need 4-5" loft\n- 16-19" shoulders: 5-6" loft\n- 19"+ shoulders: 6-7" loft\n\nThe pillows that matched their advertised loft: Coop Original (adjustable, so you set it), Tempur-Pedic Ergo, and Eli & Elm. The ones that compressed way more than expected: MyPillow, Beckham Hotel Collection, and Casper Original.
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This is incredibly helpful! I've been using a flat pillow as a side sleeper and wondering why my neck hurts. Just measured - 18" shoulders. Going to try a 5.5" loft pillow. Any specific recommendations in that range?
The Coop Original is perfect for this because you can add/remove fill to dial in the exact loft. I'm 17" shoulders and settled on about 5.25" after some experimenting. Neck pain gone within a week.
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